Becki-Jo Allen was just a young mom trying to balance having a career with raising her young daughter. But everything changed when she fell pregnant for the second time. She was only 23 years old and living with her boyfriend in Liverpool, UK, when her life was about to take a completely different direction.
The amazing story of Becki-Jo and her unlikely identical triplets has astounded people worldwide. But of course, the journey wasn’t always so easy. At Popular Everything, we’re bringing you the story of one mom who went through what so few have ever experienced.
A Very Young Mom
Becki-Jo was an ambitious young woman and a proud mom. She was pursing a career in children’s nursing, and was trying to keep her new family life afloat. She loved animals so much she became a vegetarian. Clearly, she was a girl with a heart of gold.
Becki-Jo had a bunch of close girlfriends and made sure she found the time to go out and have fun with them. But naturally, she did have a busy schedule, and family came first. For such a young woman, she had an especially good head on her shoulders. But little did she know what was coming her way.
The Unsuspecting Couple
Becki-Jo was living with Liam Tierney, her boyfriend at the time and father to her little girl, Indiana. Despite being so young, she and Liam wanted to have a bigger family, so news of the pregnancy was welcomed with joy. Everything was going according to plan.
But right from the start of her pregnancy, things didn’t feel quite right. Headaches and nausea are expected, but now they were much more severe than they were with Indiana’s pregnancy. Becki-Jo and Liam quickly booked an appointment for the doctors to find out what was going on.
The Doctor Had News
After Becki-Jo’s ultrasound test and some nervous time passing, the doctor told them the news. Becki-Jo wasn’t just pregnant with one child, but three. And they could hardly believe it. Becki-Jo and Liam weren’t unhappy with the news, but they sure were surprised.
“It was the biggest shock of my life,” Becki-Jo would later tell an interviewer. “We haven’t got any triplets in the family, so it came completely out of the blue.” A lot of the time, people who are related to other twins or triplets are a lot more likely to give birth to them. But Becki-Jo and Liam had nothing of the sort.
But there was another reason why it was even more unlikely for Becki-Jo. Statistically speaking, a woman’s chance of falling pregnant with triplets is approximately one in every 9,000. And it’s even more uncommon if it’s a young mom – and Becki was only 23 years old.
It’s also much more likely in women who have used fertility assistance, which Becki-Jo did not. The triplets she was carrying happened entirely by chance, and with no external intervention. The odds of it occurring were just very low. Luckily, the couple was overjoyed to hear the news.
But the honeymoon phase was over shortly for Becki-Jo and Liam. They had an otherwise uneventful pregnancy until her 31st week. All of a sudden at only seven months in, she started contracting, and didn’t have a choice about what was about to happen next.
The babies had been growing healthy, but it was still far too early for them to be coming into the world. They were two months early and neither Becki-Jo nor Liam were prepared. Nonetheless, Liam quickly drove her to the hospital for immediate medical attention.
An Emergency C-Section
Becki-Jo was rushed into the delivery room for an emergency C-section – it was necessary to save the lives of the triplets. And luckily, all three babies survived the emergency surgery. Three baby boys were born in 2015 and were given the names Roman, Rocco, and Rohan.
But as soon as they were in the world, they had to be rushed into intensive care. Naturally, Becki-Jo and Liam were scared about what was going on, but the doctors knew they need to be watched. They were much smaller and much younger than most babies when they’re born, and didn’t weigh anywhere near enough.
The Triplet’s First-Ever Photos
A healthy baby boy should weigh somewhere around five pounds, but Rocco only weighed three pounds and five ounces. His brothers weren’t doing much better, with Roman weighing three pounds and six ounces and Rohan weighing three pounds and ten ounces.
On top of the doctors’ weight concerns, twins and triplets are more likely to have complications in birth and have a higher health risk. Life-threatening situations are more common in multiple births, and the doctors wanted to take all precautions.
The Neonatal Intensive Care Unit
The triplets were having their heart-rate constantly monitored along with their respiratory rate, temperature, and blood pressure. They were in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and would remain there for the first six weeks of their life. As you can imagine, this wasn’t easy for their parents.
Because they were born premature, the triplets needed to stay in the hospital while their bodies caught up with the development they needed. They had separated from their mother’s body, but still needed to develop just like all other babies. Becki-Jo, Liam, and Indiana would visit all the time but it wasn’t the same. Wires and windows separated them from getting too close to the triplets.
A Very Rough Start
It was difficult at the beginning for mom and the new-born triplets. She would later recount how the boys were “born minutes apart, [at] 31 weeks, each baby had their own neonatal intensive care journey, they were all born in different conditions.” What a scary situation it must have been. “It’s so hard having 3 babies in different circumstances all fighting for life in their own ways.”
Becki-Jo was frank about how guilty feelings played a role in all of this. “Some days you can’t hold one because they aren’t doing too good but the others are having a good day and you can hold them but then suddenly you’re riddled with guilt.” Luckily, it all ended well: “But watching them hitting milestones like sucking a dummy for five seconds and starting to gain weight and feed through a bottle all makes it worthwhile.”
The First Night Was Bad
Becki-Jo’s triplets were lucky. They didn’t suffer many complications during their six-week hospital stay. Soon enough, they were able to go home with their mom and dad. Becki-Jo and Liam had been keeping themselves busy in the meantime by setting up the baby room and buying tons of baby products.
Unfortunately, it didn’t get off to a good start. On the first night at home, Roman suddenly stopped breathing. It was only for a moment, but needless to say Becki-Jo had the fright of her life. But dont worry, it turned out not to be anything serious. It was just an unexpected hiccup, and Roman soon returned to full health.
Searching For Answers
The boys were growing stronger everyday and everything was going great. The only thing was, people kept commenting on how similar the three triplets looked to eachother. People could hardly tell them apart. And Becki-Jo started to get suspicious that something else was up.
She decided to send their DNA to a laboratory to test if two of them were identical twins or if they were all fraternal. If they were all fraternal, that means they each came from a separate egg. But Becki-Jo thought it was possible two of her boys came from the same egg that split off. it would explain their physical likeness.
How Does It Work?
The majority of twins and triplets out there are fraternal twins. But identical twins, also known as monozygotic twins, are a frequent occurrence. They come from the fertilization of a single egg, which then split in two and creates two different people.
Because of their shared origin, identical twins are usually pretty hard to tell apart. They have all of the same genes, and are always the same sex. Any differences you spot between them are almost always due to the environmental impact.
The Results Are In
When the results came in, Becki-Jo could hardly believe what the scientists had discovered. Her boys weren’t just fraternal triplets – they were all identical to one another. Roman, Rocco, and Rohan all derived from the same single egg. It’s an incredibly rare occurrence that happens once in 200 million births.
Becki-Jo learned that originally she had just one egg, which then split into two. The second egg then split a third time, creating the three individual boys. To put it into perspective, the chance of giving birth to fraternal twins is one in 67, and for identical twins it’s one in 250. For Becki-Jo, this happened twice in one pregnancy.
Telling Them Apart
Becki-Jo admits that when the boys first came home, telling them apart was pretty hard. Her and Liam struggled to see who was who at times because they looked so similar. Eventually, she started to spot the differences though: “They’ve all got dark birthmarks between their eyebrows.”
Becki-Jo continues: “Roman’s [birthmark] is slightly darker than the others, and Rohan has got a birthmark on his leg as well.” But she can still get confused: “I don’t get them mixed up – it’s only when they’re asleep that they look the same to me. They all have completely different personalities.”
The Loving Big Sister
In no time at all, the triplets and the rest of the family were very happy with their new home life. Their big sister Indiana was settling into her new role as the oldest one and loved her baby brothers. But she was still only a child herself, and still need plenty of mom and dad’s attention!
And for Becki-Jo, all the hard work was worth it. She told her Instagram followers: “I love being a mum to my four special babies. I’ve got the triplets and they have shown me another side to motherhood that not many people get to experience but us lucky multiple mums.”
How Does She Manage?
Becki-Jo was definately grateful to have four beautiful children, but it did come with its challenges. Like any mother, she wanted to give each them the care and attention they deserve, but that was easier said than done. Having four kids isn’t easy at the best of times, and all of Becki-Jo’s kids were under five!
Luckily, Becki-Jo had her close family members around to help out when needed. She would have to put her career on hold for the time being until they got a little older, and she could send the boys off to preschool. Until then, she would have to make peace with the fact that “my boys never sit still and for a minute.”
The Parents Split Up
Unfortunately, things didn’t work out with the father to her kids, Liam. He moved out of the family house, leaving Becki-Jo to raise all four kids on her own. He did offer support and does come over to visit, but having moved in with his sister he wasn’t able to be around as much.
This meant that Becki-Jo was now a single mother of four kids while only just in her mid-twenties. She had to juggle raising her children and earning a living, all the while pursuing the career she originally wanted to enter into. It wasn’t going to be easy and it wasn’t going to be cheap.
The True Cost of Triplets
Naturally, the cost of caring for triplets can be challenging to keep up with, to say the least. Becki-Jo’s boys were getting through four packs of baby formula in a single day. On top of that, she’d need to make three loads of laundry a day to keep up with their changing needs.
Becki_Jo revealed that she’d also have to purchase five packs of wet wipes and 130 diapers for a week’s worth of use. To put it into perspective, she was buying 20 wet wipes and 520 diapers per month. And that’s doesn’t even cover the costs of baby girl Indiana!
They’re Never Without
Despite the challenges of keeping up with the costs, these kids get everything they need and more. Becki-Jo is lucky to have family around her that can support her when needed, and she makes sure that they don’t miss out on anything. Take a look at the triplets below on their first Christmas!
As we can see in the photo, Becki-Jo dressed the twins in matching Christmas pajamas. But in reality, it’s not so different from their day-to-day – she would usually dress them in identical clothes. On the one hand, they look adorable, and on the other, it just makes the mornings easier!
With all four kids constantly dividing mom’s attention, it has been pretty tricky for Becki-Jo to give each of them some quality one-on-one time. Understandably, it’s hard to give each child the focused attention they deserve. She admitted: “Having triplets is the most rewarding thing but it’s so hard trying to give them all that special 1:1 time.”
Becki-Jo told her Instagram followers: “Most of the time I’m juggling 3 little people in my arms or balancing them on my knee.” Nonetheless, she manages it as best she can. Whether it’s stealing a few moments with one of them while the other are distracted, or sending some of them over to grandma’s for a sleepover.
It wasn’t long before the triplets starting exhibiting their own individual characters. Becki-Jo called Roman the “little comedian” of the group: “Everything he does is funny, even when he was tiny he had something about him which just made me laugh.”
Rohan on the other hand has developed an aversion to anything sticky. She wrote on social media: “Play-doh… Rohan hates it, he hates anything that can stick to him or with a texture.” In total contrast to him, however, the other brother Rocco loves anything with a sticky texture because he thinks it’s food!
Partners In Crime
As for how the troublesome triplets were getting along with eachother… they were definiately partners in crime right from the start. Becki-Jo explained jow naughty they could be as gang of three, waiting until she’d leave the room to cause a mess or climb up something.
Becki-Jo could see from the start that her boys had strong relationships with each other. “Don’t you just love the bond between these” she wrote on her Instagram. “Actually unbreakable! They are friends forever. For all the negativity we have to listen to this picture makes me forget all about it, because look at them.”
Don’t Be Fooled!
The triplets seem so sweet as newborns in the photo on the right. But for all the love and affection they do give one another, they still fight as all brothers do. On the left is a picture of their matching teething bracelets, but the triplets would much rather knaw on each other sometimes instead!
Becki-Jo revealed to her Instagram followers: “They have the cutest bond… don’t be fooled though because they also bite and scratch each other!” And when they do fight between themselves, poor mom Becki-Jo has to try and break it up between the angry kids.
First Night Out As a Mom To Triplets
Becki-Jo didn’t manage to have a night out for the next year and a few months. “Last night was the first time in 15 months my boys have stayed out,” she wrote on social media. “So I had a night out to the boxing.” With four little ones, it’s hard for her to make time for herself or just let loose with friends.
Having triplets was never part of her life plan, but Becki-Jo stayed grateful for what ended up coming her way. “We all have different lives which can change over night, we never planned to have four children but look… we wouldn’t change a thing because everything happens for a reason.”
Premature and Proud
Becki-Jo had something to say to the world about the challenges her triplets faced. She wrote on her social media: “From day one we knew the boys never had the chance to be born on time. Being triplets meant they had no choice of being a full-term baby. They never had the chance to fully develop, grow, and gain weight.”
She continued: “Being premature doesn’t end at the discharge either. It changes so many things. It changed the year at school my boys should really be in. But don’t judge these little ones born to soon, as these have had to fight that bit harder. Instead see them for the little warriors they are!”
A Principled Upbringing
Becki-Jo has been outspoken on Instagram about the global pandemic and its affect on kids: “What I’m going to do is teach them to never live in fear, because that is not LIVING.” She continued: “Instead I’m going to teach them to always speak, be yourself and stand up for yourselves because the world is changing before our eyes.”
Becki-Jo explained: “Things aren’t going to be the same for these little kids, these are the people of the next generation, what happens now imprints on them. I’m not saying break rules or anything but to always speak their minds when they have a gut feeling, because it’s never usually wrong.”
Becki-Jo Used To Pretend To Have Twins
Believe it or not, Becki-Jo did use to imagine having twins when she was just a little girl. But not any more than your average little girl playing make-belief. Fast forward a few short years and she’s got herself her very own identical triplets! She wrote, “Never in a million years did I think I’d have triplets.”
She continued: “I used to pretend to have twins when I was a little girl but never triplets. I still can’t believe I had three babies at once but everything happens for a reason. They have shown me so much, but good job I am laid back and take everything in a breeze.” We definitely think she seems like she was made for this role of a lifetime.
The Triplets Go To Kindergarden
Being a mom to triplets means you’re used to working at a different pace than most people. Once her babies were old enough to go to kindergarten, Becki-Jo was at a loss for what to do with all her free time. “Weekdays, I literally never know what to do with myself. Even when I’m occupied with my work, house work and everything else,” she wrote on her social account.
She continued: “I think it’s because having triplets is so intense and you have to give your all constantly (if that makes sense.)” Clearly, Becki-Jo has been loving her life as a busy mom. “I can’t believe I was blessed with my boys. Then to find out they was identical at 10 months old was even more of a blessing. My 3 of a kind.”
With Becki-Jo posting more and more on social media as her kids were growing up, she started to gain quite a following. She’d share photos, parenting tips, and answer questions that the people wanted to know about. And it’s proven very successful for her. She almost exclusively posts about her cheeky triplet babies or little Indiana.
Cut to today, and she’s acquired over 60,000 followers on the image-sharing platform! It’s allowed for a secondary income to support her and her big family, usually through sponsorships. Becki-Jo even reaches out to her online audience when she has a parenting conundrum herself.
The “Triplet Train”
You might be wondering what it looks like when Becki-Jo goes out with her brood. Well, you’re not the only one – take a look at the picture below of what Becki-Jo calls the “triplet train.” Unsurprisingly, she gets stopped all the time by curious onlookers who want to ask about the identical triplets.
As we can see, little Indie is a happy little helper. Of course, she’s only very young herself, but her connection with the boys means that she’s willing to help out. She calls Indiana “the best big sister in the world” who innocently manages to make her baby brothers “laugh at her when she just walks past.”
Mad About Chihuahua’s
Becki-Jo has been learning to be more open on Instagram, and even let us have a sneak peak into herself. She revealed that she’s secretly a “mad chihuahua lady” who’s just crazy for the minitiure dogs. She told her followers: “I have three… I’d have 10 if i could!” The mothering instinct must be strong in Becki-Jo.
On top of that, Becki-Jo admits to being a “slight drama queen” who wanted to pursue a career as a children’s nurse. And in her downtime, you can find her either rewatching the Harry Potter film series or Disney animation movies.
A Role Model Worth Looking Up To
Becki-jo’s decision to re-enroll in university wasn’t taken lightly. But she was determined to be an amazing role model for the kids – just because she had four youngsters to raise didn’t mean she was ready to put her career goals behind her. She told her followers: “Applied to uni again this year and how I am going to juggle it alone with them I’ll never know.”
“Plus it is going to be hard but it’s all for them” she added. “They are my will power and I will be the best role model for them to look up to.” We can’t imagine how hard it must be as a young single mom. She candidly admitted: “I do the best I can for them and always will, sometimes I wish I could do more but it’s so hard because I’m limited with having four of them.”
Becki-Jo’s Family Is Bigger Than We Thought
Becki-Jo let her Instagram followers in on another unknown tidbit about her life: “I am the eldest of five and the only one with any kids.” Wow – we never expected she’d have so many siblings herself. She once told her followers that she “couldn’t imagine not having sisters” but who knew she had so many.
Her youngest sister, Kirstyn Mei, is actually still a youngster herself. At around only nine years old, she’s closer in age to Becki-Jo’s kids than she is to Becki-Jo herself. She once posted a photo of her baby sister playing with one of the triplets and jokingly wrote: “When your auntie is your best friend.”
The “Triplet Train” Evolves
It wasn’t too long before the triplets outgrew their three-baby pram. So Becki-Jo had to come up with some way of letting them walk around but not stray too far. She ended up creating the “baby leash” pictured in the photo, joking “When you look like a crazy dog walker, but you have kids on the end of the lead instead.”
This photo ended up being kind of controversial for the mom of four, with commentors writing that the triplets shouldn’t be treated like a pet. Becki-Jo replied: “Just to clarify that my boys like being on their reins as they like to walk instead of being trapped in a pram.” She added: “There is one of me and three of them so safety always comes first!” After that, most of her followers responded well to her defense.
Of course, she’s not just a mom to three impossible cute boys. Her little girl is growing up right before her eyes. She wrote her a tribute post on Instagram that read: “My Indie, the girl who stole my heart, the baby that made me a mum… the days are going fast and the years even faster but you’re growing into a lovely little lady.” She’s right about that.
Becki-Jo revealed just how much of a mommy’s girl Indiana really is: “She’s inseparable from me, I actually can’t move for her. She says she misses me all the time if we are not together… She cries at the thought of growing up because she doesn’t want to live in a house without me…” Becki-Jo added, “But I love that she is like this because it shows me how much I mean to her and she is always looking up to me.”
They Have Their Difficult Days
On one particular day, they drove Becki-Jo bonkers. She took to social media to share her experience recently, showing the world that it’s not all hugs and kisses. She wrote: “Not going to lie but these boys have been challenging this week. They haven’t pushed it this far in a while, to the point where I feel like I’m going mad.”
To be fair, Becki-Jo also thought the spell of bad British weather could be partially to blame: “Yesterday was probably the worst, I think they need a good run around a park but with all these storms we can’t risk it. Praying tomorrow is better behaviour and better weather.” Luckily, Indiana was on her best behavior. “And my little Indie is a star.”
Remembering the Birth For World Prematurity Day
For every World Prematurity Day on the 17th November, Becki-Jo posts on her Instagram to raise awareness for the cause. One year she described in greater detail the ordeal she went through during the triplets’ birth: “My babies were almost 11 weeks early but the amazing doctors stopped my labor at 29 weeks. I managed to keep them in for an extra couple of painful days but every day counts so it didn’t matter about me.”
It’s pretty amazing that Becki-Jo could manage such a thing. She continued: “We delivered at 31 weeks, my boys were all born in different conditions and the amazing staff at the hospital kept them alive.” Luckily, aside from their first night at home, they’ve been growing healthily ever since.
2020 Throws a Curveball
As you can imagine, trying to be a good student and raising four kids is a hell of a challenge. In 2020, she’s had to also find a way to attend her lessons online and homeschool all four of her kids. She told her Instagram followers: “My second year of nursing starts tomorrow at 9 am online.”
She continued: “Homeschooling four kids and doing a degree at the same time under the same roof is going to be the craziest thing I’ve ever had to do. Pray for me.” She’s really making us feel ungrateful for all the things we complain about. Luckily for the children, she’s an amazing and determined mom.
Bigger and Badder
You won’t believe how much bigger the triplets are today. They recently celebrated their fifth birthday which, as always, is celebrated together in a joint birthday party. Indiana’s birthday is actually only two weeks later, so all four of the kids often have one big party together.
And as they’ve gotten older, things at home have been changing. “Once upon a time I used to be able to put three little humans to bed and not hear a peep,” Becki-Jo told her followers. “However things have changed and tonight I have been up the stairs 17 times in the last hour putting the same little humans back in bed because they have escaped…” No one said this life was gonna be easy!